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You are viewing the most recent 20 entries November 24th, 2009the_willow @ 02:02 pm: Sh*t, P*ss, Damn
 So y'know how I said I'd make it to my doctor's appt? I forgot I'm not the sole voice of authority in here. Just cancelled it. Too much anxiety at confronting her about the lyrica. Just left voicemail saying I couldn't come in and explaining why. Now maybe my womb will stop hurting just a little bit and I'll stop shaking and my chest will stop hurting and I can stop crying. Y'know? Sometimes, I am brave. At other times, I worry my anxiety might cause me to shiv someone. Ok maybe not cause me to shiv someone. But shving could seriously happen - I get violent or terrified when I'm very anxious with no real way to tell. And seriously, if a treat of Peanut Butter Cups shaped like Christmas trees couldn't get me to leave the house, and the threat of a library fine, then I need to pay attention and not try to walk, outside, when my lower half feels all TMI. Meantime, I'll be over here curled up in a ball, trying not to should or 'you are such a coward' myself. Oh yeah, also no SI - have to remember to focus on that. Tags: anxiety scale 8.5
the_willow @ 07:23 am: Little Ball Of Ow
 I had every intention of going to sleep when I headed to the bedroom at a reasonable hour (This is after the nap you insisted I take Fickle). But I just couldn't. Anxiety cranked up and up, so I had to find something to research to soothe myself. Eh, that did not go well and the results of what I did end up reading/surfing are at the bottom of the post. But, I've realized where my current pain is coming from. Yes it is raining. Yes I do have joint pain. But I also have womb pain. A particular type of womb pain. A panic induced womb pain. Oh how I did not miss it. And yes it's related to my mother. Anyway it explains why I didn't want to go to bed when it came on - fears of nightmares no doubt just under my subconscious. I will get to my doctor's appt in the rain today, but this kind of pain is even more debilitating when I'm out of the house. So eff la de dah brain, you craven politician you. ============= Backtracking January, possibly doing exposure to the harmful stimuli therapy for desensization or something around those lines, I came across this line, from someone who'd had several people patiently explaining to them their ass was showing. Note stopping conversation for a family emergency - totally valid. It's just sigh + eye roll when they decide this is the best response t things that had been pointed out to them: " Praise is MORE IMPORTANT when dealing with the -isms, even though it's true that we shouldn't HAVE to praise people for doing the right thing." Apparently some of us in this world need to walk around with backpack ovens so we can hand out fresh baked cookies all the time as a first impulse. Tags: #social justice issues, bite my flat arse, pain scale 7.5
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November 23rd, 2009red_eft @ 11:10 pm: huzzah! stuff!
 Yuletart image is sent out one hour ahead of deadline (wooo), sweet potatoes for potluck tomorrow are in the fridge, and I am over 30K on my novel. I feel this has been a Good Day. ...still 10,000 behind on NaNo, but. That's okay! Comment at Dreamwidth Read comments
the_willow @ 10:30 am: The downside of actually showing up last year
 So it's begun. The holiday hints, nudges, shoves by my mother at how much my siblings would love to see me for Christmas and how much she can do for me if I show up. Considering how...odd I feel right now? Like I don't even know if I want to to Zvi's for Thanksgiving, because I'm on edge, in pain, out of sorts, pondering spoons, etc? I just... It feels superstitious to say I feel pre-warnings that this will be a bad holiday season and instinct tells me to hunker down and wait for it to be over. But that's how I feel right now. Find some books I can enjoy, have pizza and wait for January 2nd. Obviously I'm depressed and it's cranking my lack of sociability ever upwards, yes? Tags: about me, holiday visitations, mood scale 3
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November 22nd, 2009mero_update, posting in meta_roundup @ 09:40 pm: Issue #121
Help & writing resourcesIn an untitled post, bridgetmkennit explains the tags system and the four different types of warnings at the Archive Of Our Own, and how to use them. lore: BloMo18: Tis the season of saving stories....: tips on saving fanfic stories "in a format that can be easily transferred to most reading devices without losing the author's intended passages of emphasis". There have been a few posts on BDSM, community rules and terminology, intended as resources for writers and to clear up some common misunderstandings. In Hi! My name is Minxie…, the_minx_17 talks about general rules and some stereotypes. irana wrote On BDSM, Part I to explain the abbreviations SCC and RACK, and to talk about consent. On BDSM, Part II covers negotiation (both Scene and Relationship negotiation). InsaneJournalAn InsaneJournal Holiday Sale just started. Self-Committed (i.e. paid) accounts and Extra Userpics will be available at reduced prices until November 27th. Friday the 27th will also have a short sale on Permanently Insane accounts. das_dingsi: Updating habits: "The interesting part is how it made me view the update page more closely than usual and I consciously noticed all the things I don't use [on InsaneJournal]." Other bitterfig: where do they make subtext?: "I always wonder where stuff like (i.e. homoerotic and/or incestuous subtext) this comes from, is it intentional or just a quirk of chemistry?" lilithilien: Why do we do it?, a short commentary on an AfterElton.com article titled "Why are Women Interested in Gay Men? It's Not Because They Want to Sleep With Them!", with discussion in comments. novembermond: has a question about friending meme[s]: "[W]hat are the dos and don'ts ... ?" [Supernatural] ep. 5x10 meta-ish reaction posts - SPOILERS galore! the_shoshanna: Supernatural 5.10, "Abandon All Hope...": "Thanks SO MUCH for making women just the underbrush to be cleared away before the real stuff happens." musesfool: lacrimae volvuntur inanes: "I would like to be able to talk about the episode on its own merits, because I thought it was a fantastic episode emotionally and a great way to go into hiatus, but I am SO FUCKING SICK of the way this show treats female characters." yourlibrarian (in mind_over_meta): SPN 5.10 - A sign of hope: "There's nothing there right now for an audience to cling to, any more than a clear plot direction for Sam and Dean." Tags: ! roundups, archiving, fandom etiquette, fandom from the outside, fandoms: supernatural, friending memes, gender, genres: slash, helpful stuff, insanejournal, kinks (narrative or otherwise), sexuality, sites: ao3, subtext, writing
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November 21st, 2009the_willow @ 11:14 pm: In Other News
 My hip has hurt for three days straight, and it's kind of getting to me. It's not a biting, omg need to vomit pain. But it feels wrong and makes me worry and overthink. Also I miss DW. Yes I'm still commenting, but I miss the people that drop in to say *hugs*. I'm very much aware that it's a 'deal' to come to iJay and people tend to do so and catch up on a bunch of posts at once. The major thing is, however, the very reason I'm not over there (inability to save comments) makes missing it useless. Because I'd be there and anxious about not being able to save it, or just be xposting there with comments on here. But it rankles a lot that some problem with my imported lj comments apparently isn't duplicable. It's the thing that originally made me go - hey this could get me just about 98% or more LJ free and pay attention to dw in the first place. And then it irks that you can't show comments but have comments closed. And it irks that you can't have comments open on individual posts if the comment default for the journal itself is 'comments disabled'. I mean Blogger has that. Since when has Blogger been on the cutting edge of the industry. They only figured out how to do easy jump cuts THIS YEAR. And it doesn't even work for everyone. Meanwhile I've discovered/confirmed/reconfirmed my romance hot button trope. But it doesn't feel very important at all given the hip pain. Seriously hip pain sucks. A lot. With rocks. Slimey rocks. Also? Dragonage: Origins will never* drop to a price I consider reasonable given its skeezy race and trans issues *mental tantrum with fist stomping* * [Note the dramatic emphasis]Tags: +deewee, pain scale 7
the_willow @ 05:23 pm: US People's Ideas Of Service & Manners Are So Different
100 Things Restaurant Staffers Should Never Do; Parts 1 & 2I read it all the way through and suddenly realized why as a child eating out in America confused me so much (because things were so different) and why I get so easily irked when I go out to eat now. Here I was attributing it to me being anti-social. 'Are you still working on that?' - *grits teeth* Why are you calling the meal or the experience of eating it WORK? And the constant hovering and pouring water that some people think is good service but which just makes my stomach tense up and cramp because there's no moment to relax without someone in your face all the time. I find nothing wrong with going out and treating myself to dinner, PLEASE PLEASE do not think, dear servers, that I need company and you're doing me a favour stopping by every five to seven minutes. I'm either reading, or enjoying the view and meal. What's most revealing to me is the comments. People insisting they can never eat or work in a restaurant owned by the person who compiled the list because there are too many rules. People insisting that someone who has all their rules must be underpaying their staff, or that they're expecting a lot of work and formality out of minimum wage staff. As if how much you get paid to do a thing, dictates whether or not you do it well and properly. Then there's the people who're all 'You'll go out of business if you give away recipes' And the people who think the rules are obnoxious. And the person who called it 'early 20th Century British servant manners' - as an INSULT. And the people who can't tell the difference between telling a customer about dishes without stating which dishes are their favourite. I mean I only give a damn about the waiter's favourite dish if I'm trying to decide something and they say 'I'm a total chocoholic and I really like x'. In which cause I immediately know it's likely to be too rich for my tastebuds. I finally found a comment that cements to me the general consensus of the 'WTF comments' 101. A Waiter will never, by word or sign, indicate that he or she believes he is a human being of equal worth as the patrons of the restaurant. When the Waiter accepts a check signed by the restaurant owner/manager, that proves he or she is inferior.
102. A Waiter will never, when off duty, off the restaurant premises, or anywhere else, act in a manner unbecoming to the restaurant. The Waiter is an ambassador for the restaurant and is at all time responsible to the restaurant for his or her behavior. The Waiter is permanently the property of the restaurant. So being quietly respectful, not presenting oneself as a diner's new best friend, allowing people to eat in peace and trying to be attentive to their needs is .... wage slavery? And then the US claims that it is a service oriented economy? And I find myself pondering the whole Sir, Ma'am, Miss thing. Though I'm not sure people say 'Miss' in the US. But the whole thing about Sir & Ma'am being cracks on age and not terms of respect? WTF? I know I've never felt more comfortable - unexpectedly comfortable- than when first visiting my step-family in Georgia and suddenly all the manners that got me labeled 'kiss up' etc in NYC, were just plain accepted. ETA: Geeze people. A waiter doesn't have to hover in order to be attentive and not seem to disappear when a guest/customer needs them. They can be at the front or the back of the dining area, visible when not attending other tables. It's not rocket science people! ETA2: Zvi was the one who clued me on minimum wage and how important tips were financially to American waitstaff. I grew up where tips were a bonus for good service. Given my reaction in general to American waitstaff service - I previously was not leaving any tips. Zvi still seems to me, to find not leaving a tip to be rude. But it's ingrained in me, deeply, not to pay for service I did not find desirable. And I'm ecstatic when service is such, I don't have to remember 'well, they probably don't get paid much and Zvi said it is helpful to the working stiff so I should give -something-' Tags: blogsphere at large, random, rant
squeaky, posting in announcements @ 02:30 pm: IJ Holiday Sale
 We are starting this years InsaneJournal holiday sale. From now until the end of the day Friday, November 27 we are going to be holding a sale on Self-Committed[paid] accounts and Extra Userpics. The prices are be as follows Self-Committed[paid] 1 Month -> $5 6 Month -> $15 $10 12 Month -> $25 $18 Extra Userpicx 6 Month -> $10 $5 12 Month -> $20 $15 Then on Friday November 27th from 8am until 4pm (Eastern US time) we will be running a very special sale on Permanently Insane accounts.
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thete1 @ 12:48 am: The glory as I dreamed
 The glory as I dreamed [ Reference] by Te November 12, 2009 Disclaimers: No one and nothing here is mine. Spoilers/Timeline: No real spoilers, takes place when Bruce is eighteen. Summary: In which the two most obsessive people in the universe do what they do best. Ratings Note/Warnings: Sexual content. Author's Note: An AU 'missing scene' for ending *2* of A way so familiar. Will not make any sense without the other. Acknowledgments: To Jack, Pixie, and Mildred for audiencing, encouragement, and putting up with me when the story veered sideways. Story! Current Mood:  enthralled Current Music: Badly Drawn Boy: "Bewilderbeast"
Tags: fan fiction: all, fan fiction: dc comicsverse, genre: slash, series: and each moment moved
November 19th, 2009thete1 @ 08:37 pm: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH
 I just renamed the files on teland because a rather gratitude-inducing individual informed me that -- somehow -- it got indexed on google, which... no. WORLD OF NO. I -- look. It could be as simple as the fact that I've been using my gmail to point people to the story, but I would like to ask -- *beg* -- that those of you who have read the thing *not link it anywhere*. At all. Yes, that includes del.icio.us, nalasalad2. And maybe don't write out the links in your google apps? Christ. I'm going to put in that thingy to block robots just as soon as I can make my brain work enough to do that. In the meantime... Hell. Just take the 'me' out of the file name. Save it onto your hard drives if you want it, because I'm *thisfuckingclose* to yoinking it. Current Mood:  gaaaaaaaaaaah Current Music: Angie Martinez: "Live At The Jimmy's"
das_dingsi @ 05:16 pm: Easy Recipe #3: Apple-Oatmeal Cake with Vanilla Ice Cream
 This was the most popular choice in the poll, and funny enough, I haven't encountered yet a person who didn't like it, even when initially sceptical towards oatmeal or apples. (Well, unless they have allergies, of course.) I'm going to use °C and metric measurements for the recipe, but converters are easy to find online and also it's not one of those where you have to be super accurate, so that shouldn't be a problem. What you need: - oatmeal (I buy the 1 kg package which lasts for several meals) - 2 to 3 apples - sugar - cinnamon - a bar of butter (I use the 250 g bars -- you'll definitely need less than a pound) - vanilla ice cream and a greased baking pan, casserole dish, or similar (if it's fireproof and somewhat flat it'll work). ( Read more... )Serve fresh out of the oven, in small bowls, with some ice cream on top. Makes for a nice hot-cold contrast. Oh, and you eat the cake with spoons. Additional info: - Makes you feel full extremely quickly. I've had huge people who are big eaters laugh in my face when I served them the "tiny" dish, only to see them declare defeat after their second bowl. - The dough can be kept in the fridge to use it up later, and also works great as a muesli breakfast substitute. You can't really mess up this one. Trust me. Tags: food / home / i have stuff!
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November 18th, 2009the_willow @ 09:31 pm: Publisher's Weekly
 Is it me? or is Publisher's Weekly soundly putting their foot up it, right until it comes out of their arse when it comes to ignoring or bad talking female writers and readers and female centric genres? They just got trounced on their 'best of' and now sucktastic title on a feature interview. Someone is snorting some extra strong powdered stereotypes over there. Tags: blogsphere at large
the_willow @ 06:10 am: Going The Eff Back To Bed
 Hip Pain - > Often Caused By Sciatica Sciatica - > Often Caused By A Slipped Disc Slipped Disc - > When I Was Eleven (Growing)Pain / Body Not Feeling Trustworthy - > Ever Since I Was Eleven Back Pain/Spasms, Neck Pain Spasms, History of Migraines - > Numerous History of Knee & Ankle Problems -> Numerous History of Car Accidents - > Yes Mentions To Doctor Of All Of This - > Numerous Frustration At Having To 'Google' My Symptoms To Truly Know WTF Is Wrong With Me? -> Enormous Urge To Punch All Medical Professionals In The Face - Overwhelming Addtionals: Fibromyalgia Related To Spinal Injury -> Yes -- I am no longer sure I give a damn about 'professional' diagnosis if I can find deeper explanations on why my body's been falling apart for years. And I've spent too much of 2009 trying to tell myself I'm not lazy, and I'm not tired - I'm reacting to pain and that's why I'm avoiding things/doing less. I originally filtered this flocked, but someone else journaling about their experiences actually helped me get to this point. So passing the verification that this IS happening forward, I guess. Current Mood:  indescribable
Tags: discomfort scale 8, fibromyalgia, health: physical, question everything
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